By Michael Mirdad

“And the two shall be one,” is one of the oldest descriptions of a relationship. This often misunderstood quote is frequently thought to mean that two halves will total one whole, complete person. Nothing could be further from the truth. It was meant to say that two beings are sharing the commitment to discover their own oneness, the oneness of their mutual relationship and their oneness with God and the universe.

Intimacy is perhaps the most common means of experiencing this oneness, since intimacy (meaning: in-to-me-see) is an experience of mutuality and sharing. Where two or more are gathered, with one common goal in love, there is the presence of God.

The greatest expression a person can experience is that of Love. One of the most important expressions of Love is intimacy. Sexuality is one of the most powerful, physical expressions of intimacy and Love. Therefore, who, how, when and where we share this expression is something that is worth deep consideration.

Since true sexual union is one of harmony, it's important to understand that complete cooperation, communication and agreement is a must. If the two are truly one, then there should be a great deal of sensitivity for the likes and dislikes of each partner. So, in effect, sexual union can enhance one's compassion and sensitivity towards oneself and others.

There are three active forces within the human consciousness that assist us in expressing and experiencing the most profound level of relationships with others. These forces are: Love (with the heart), Desire (with our feelings), and Passion or Sexuality (with our body). Most people find themselves experiencing one or two of these. Yet, the ideal scenario is to have all three of these attributes or forces in harmonious balance.

Love is who we really are, at the level of the soul. To share the heart and soul means that you are evolved enough to hold this space. To share it with another, means that you are brave and courageous enough to risk vulnerability at its deepest level.

Desire can serve as a bridge between love and sex or the heart and the body. The level of desire that we feel can accurately gage how much freshness and spontaneity we have in our life and our relationship, which acts as wood for the fire of passion. Yet, desire without sex and love, is closer to a feeling of longing and need.

Passion & Sexuality are best when accompanied by love and healthy desire. Love, in its healthiest manifestation is often referred to as “Sacred Sexuality.” This is where the bodies meet to physically express what is felt in the heart and emotions. This is not to say that all sexual experiences must necessarily be between two individuals who are “in love.” The idea, is that each person learns how to be in a space of loving presence for their own benefit first. This, in turn, can bring a sacred union to both.

Only when you greet love, life, and others from/with a healthy balance of the three aspects of love, desire and sexual passion, will you be able to bestow the greatest gift of your true self to your beloved. Then, you will inevitably receive the same gift from them in return. But for this to happen, a certain amount of emotional and spiritual maturity has to exist. If this maturity is present, you will intuitively choose the right partner, one who has, in essence, the same maturity and readiness to match yours.

Love & Light, Michael Mirdad